The Mother of all Secret Weapons for Dealing with Toddler Tantrums

And so it begins… Gareth has hit the “Obstinate Ones“. He flings himself onto the floor wailing in a heart-breaking “woe-is-me” sort of way whenever he is denied anything. Perhaps the benefit of being a second-time-around parent is that you’ve seen this all before and have a lot more experience up your sleeve. In theContinue reading “The Mother of all Secret Weapons for Dealing with Toddler Tantrums”

Toddler Tantrum Management: Using the Fast Food Rule

A long time ago, I used to use a method of handling Gavin’s tantrums that was devised by paediatrician Harvey Karp, called “Toddlerese“.  I haven’t used it in a long time for various reasons. Recently, after Gavin’s repeated tantrums and refusal to comply with my requests, I revived this tactic with some rather pleasing results…Continue reading “Toddler Tantrum Management: Using the Fast Food Rule”

Toddler Discipline: When Little Nero Emerges

Recently, I noticed that Gavin’s t-shirts are getting shorter. What used to be worn like a dress has turned into something akin to a crop top. His shoes have also been getting smaller. His toes are now threatening to spill out of his former Ronald McDonald-like shoes. How did my son grow so much withoutContinue reading “Toddler Discipline: When Little Nero Emerges”

Dealing with Toddler Temper Tantrums Part 3

Continuing on from my last post on Dealing with Toddler Temper Tantrums Part 2… Controlling the Situation and Environment In the first part of “Dealing with Toddler Temper Tantrums” I mentioned the importance of understanding your child and being able to see the situation from his perspective.  Not only does this help you assess theContinue reading “Dealing with Toddler Temper Tantrums Part 3”

Dealing with Toddler Temper Tantrums Part 2

This is part two on the article of “Dealing with Toddler Temper Tantrums.” Please click the link to read the first part. Tactics for Managing Tantrums Communication That fact that temper tantrums begin to decrease as children develop the language skills suggests that part of the cause is due to the inability to express theirContinue reading “Dealing with Toddler Temper Tantrums Part 2”

Dealing with Toddler Temper Tantrums Part 1

Quite a while back, I wrote about a post about the terrible twos, the wonder weeks and temper tantrums and that I would follow up with another post on what I’ve learned about dealing with these difficult situations.  My apologies for the long delay with the follow up post, but here it is better lateContinue reading “Dealing with Toddler Temper Tantrums Part 1”

What's Bothering my Toddler?

A few nights ago, Gavin’s behaviour took a huge turn for the worst.  He woke up in the middle of the night crying hysterically and it was not from a night terror.  He was impossible to placate and every little molehill was a mountain.  I couldn’t understand how my sweet and gentle little boy couldContinue reading “What's Bothering my Toddler?”

Discipline Tactics for Toddlers – The Teaching Conversation

Since my earlier difficulties in getting Gavin to apologise, I think I’ve discovered a tactic that works pretty well.  I read about it from “Raising a Happy Child” by Steve and Shaaron Biddulph.  It is called the “teaching conversation”.  It is intended for toddlers in possession of some amount of language skills because they areContinue reading “Discipline Tactics for Toddlers – The Teaching Conversation”

Distress Tantrum versus Little Nero Tantrum

<![CDATA[ Contrary to popular belief, a child’s tantrums are not always about a need to control a parent. “Many tantrums are the result of genuine emotional pain, which should be taken seriously: the pain of impotence, deep frustration, loss, disappointment, and feeling misunderstood. Only some tantrums are primarily motivated by a wish to have controlContinue reading “Distress Tantrum versus Little Nero Tantrum”