First World Problems with the iPad Generation

Firstly, I would like to state that I am not anti-iPad. Far from it. I love it. I think it is one of the most wondrous devices ever conceived. The kids have learned so much from it and they have a lot of fun in the process, too! Best of all, it shuts them upContinue reading “First World Problems with the iPad Generation”

The Dynamics of Sibling Relationships

Some time back, I read a chapter in Nurture Shock on “The Sibling Effect” where Bronson and Merryman highlighted the importance of allowing your first child to have friends before giving him a sibling. Most people make the mistake of thinking that having siblings helps a child to develop social skills that can then beContinue reading “The Dynamics of Sibling Relationships”

On School and Siblings: The Socialisation Myth

I wanted to explore this topic because I believe there is a misconception about how children learn the rules of social conduct. Feel free to rebut the arguments here and/or share your experiences in the comments. There are technically two points I’m discussing here, the first is related to child personality… When Aristotle was little,Continue reading “On School and Siblings: The Socialisation Myth”

The Sibling Effect on the Younger Child

Recently, we had a scene in the car… Gavin has a blue water bottle and Gareth has a yellow water bottle. They are both exactly the same except for the colour. Both bottles are clear so you can see that they contain water inside. Gavin was holding his water bottle and Gareth suddenly made aContinue reading “The Sibling Effect on the Younger Child”

Valuing Your Child's Individuality

I know I have often written about the importance of nurture to the point that one might be forgiven for thinking that nature plays only a small role in the way our children develop. If you’ve read John Medina’s book “Brain Rules for Baby”, you will know that it’s actually 50% nature and 50% nurture.Continue reading “Valuing Your Child's Individuality”

Parenting: Older Child vs Younger Sibling – Who Comes First?

I had a discussion with a friend quite some time ago about how we would manage our attention between the second baby and our first child.  We both agreed that it would be good to have help and I remember saying that I would get the help to manage the older child while I handledContinue reading “Parenting: Older Child vs Younger Sibling – Who Comes First?”

The Positive Influence of a Sibling

They say that you should avoid creating competition between your children in order to preserve the sibling relationship.  However, I have discovered that siblings can also be positive influences when you have a toddler with displaying challenging behaviours. Whether this is all part and parcel of normal toddler development, or perhaps Gavin is just moreContinue reading “The Positive Influence of a Sibling”

Nurture Shock: Chapter 6 – The Sibling Effect

There is a common misconception that being an only child is in some way detrimental to that child’s social development.  The theory is that being an only child deprives that child of the many interactions he would otherwise have with a sibling which would go a long way towards fostering the development of his socialContinue reading “Nurture Shock: Chapter 6 – The Sibling Effect”

Toddler Development: Sibling Rivalry

Looks like I might have been a tad premature when I said Gavin took very well to the arrival of his baby brother Gareth.  While Gareth and I were in the hospital, Gavin’s behaviour was almost exemplary.  It was after we arrived home that everything started to fall apart.   Although Gavin still adores his babyContinue reading “Toddler Development: Sibling Rivalry”