Love is a force more formidable than any other. It is invisible – it cannot be seen or measured, yet it is powerful enough to transform you in a moment, and offer you more joy than any material possession could. – Barbara de Angelis
Babies need love to thrive – it can be the difference between life and death.
- Jill Stamm talked about it in Bright from the Start.
- Makoto Shichida stresses the importance of love in right brain development
- Pamela Hickein of Right Brain Kids emphasises this point with the motto – “Hug, Play, Learn.“
“Love is the strongest force there is. There is no stronger healing power than love. Love is pure magic. Love transforms people without really does anything. The mere presence of love transforms people. There is nothing more holy than love since love makes people whole.” – Swami Dhyan Giten
Love Conquers All – The Story of James Fallon
It would seem that love conquers all – even your genetics.
There was a very interesting article on Smithsonian.com on James Fallon – the neuroscientist who discovered he was a psychopath revealed that love can also help us beat our genetics. Here’s the articles in a nutshell:
While studying brain scans for a research project he was working on, he discovered that his own brain scan displayed all the features of a psychopath. It wasn’t just his brain scan. He also discovered he had the genetic markers for aggression, violence and low empathy – all features of a psychopath. He also had the inclinations of a psychopath and he had a family history with seven alleged murderers. Yet, despite the odds against him, James Fallon is a happily married man who has never raped or killed anyone.
What protected him from the dark path? James Fallon attributes it to his loving childhood experiences.
“I was loved, and that protected me,” he says.
This corresponds to recent research: His particular allele for a serotonin transporter protein present in the brain, for example, is believed to put him at higher risk for psychopathic tendencies. But further analysis has shown that it can affect the development of the ventromedial prefrontal cortex (the area with characteristically low activity in psychopaths) in complex ways: It can open up the region to be more significantly affected by environmental influences, and so a positive (or negative) childhood is especially pivotal in determining behavioral outcomes.
If Love Conquers All, Will it Heal Our World?
As a parent looking at the world our children are growing up in, it’s has been disheartening to read about the negative behaviours that more and more children are getting involved in. I’m not talking about the usual behavioural issues that most children go through but the crueler more insidious actions that we normally believe children to be incapable of – the stuff you read in the papers and walk away feeling intensely disturbed by; like when children bully another child until that child commits suicide and then continue to spout profanities towards the dead child. It makes you wonder – what happened to these children that they lack empathy?
Love is the only force capable of transforming an enemy into friend. – Martin Luther King, Jr.
After reading the article about James Fallon, is it too naive to say that “love will heal our world“? If there is only one thing we can do as a parent, just love our children? I’m not talking about spoiling with toys, but real love – time in, playing together, hugs, all that sort of stuff. It seems like the stuff of childhood dreams and fairies but remember…