There is a general tendency to label children as “good” or “bad” based on how well they study, perform academically, and listen to their parents. Did you know that many great individuals in history have fallen under the “bad” category because they did not study, they performed poorly, and they did not follow instructions – Albert Einstein, Galileo, the Wright Brothers, Leonardo Da Vince, John Lennon, Thomas Edison were children in this category. They were believed to have ADHD (attention deficit hyperactive disorder).
Children with ADHD demonstrate three main characteristics:
- short attention span
- unable to stay calm
Yet, despite the environment they were raised in, these great individuals made this world a better place for us.
The key is to be enthusiastic about what your child loves to do. Respect your child’s individuality and do not compare him to other children.
Thomas Edison was homeschooled by his mother during his primary school years. Because of this, his curiosity and eagerness to learn were allowed to flourish under this mother’s care. She encouraged him to continue experimenting which helped to develop his natural abilities further.
Edison said, “The reason I have become what I am today is because of my mother. She understood my heart and encouraged me to study what I love.”
Edison’s mother was labelled a fool for continuously praising Edison as a genius despite all his failures. Her belief in her son’s abilities empowered him.
Children whose parents believe in them will demonstrate absolute power. When you compare your child to others, his ability to believe in himself will be crushed. He will grow up with a disparaged heart. When a child challenges an idea or teaching, do not compare him with anyone else. Recognise his individuality and trust in the possilibities. If we continue to believe in our children, one day, he will reward our trust.