The Discipline Armoury: Tip 17 – Daily Routines

Tip 1, Tip 2, Tip 3, Tip 4, Tip 5, Tip 6, Tip 7, Tip 8, Tip 9, Tip 10, Tip 11, Tip 12, Tip 13, Tip 14, Tip 15, Tip 16.

Daily Routines

Daily routines create predictability in a child’s life that helps him to feel secure in the big world that he learns so much about every day.  Daily routines can help you chart a safe course through tantrum waters because the familiar patterns in the day is comforting to your child.  Even if you don’t create a daily routine for your child, he will create one for himself.  It is better for you to create a routine that works for you than to adapt around a routine your child creates for himself.

Pantley cites an example of a boy who would fall asleep on the sofa to the sound of the TV.  His parents would lament that he could never fall asleep in bed.  This is because the boy had created his own routine of falling asleep on the sofa.  So if you don’t like the routine of your child falling asleep on the sofa, create your own routine.

The good news is that it isn’t difficult to create daily routines for children.  For children, the rough time frame for creating a routine can be anything up to thirty days.  I used to have a lot of trouble getting Gavin to sleep at night when he was little.  I tried the whole routine thing but whenever Gavin recognised the pre-sleep routine, he would freak out and fight even harder because he knew it was time to sleep and he didn’t want to sleep.  After that, I gave up and concluded that routines did not work for my son.

When Gavin was a little older, the whole bedtime routine thing fell into place like magic.  Suddenly, the mention of sleep no longer brought with it howls of protest.  Sometimes Gavin would be so agreeable about it that I’d be completely bowled over by his behaviour.

Routines aren’t necessarily for everyone.  Some parents enjoy living on the fly.  Pantley believes that you should only do what you feel comfortable with.  Establishing a routine should be something you try if it suits you.  If routines aren’t your thing, there are other disciplinary tools you can use.  I’m not particularly a routine person myself, but there have been times when it has helped me in dealing with Gavin.

What routines do you use with your children?

The Discipline Armoury: Tip 18 – Happy Face Cards

Published by Shen-Li

SHEN-LI LEE is the author of “Brainchild: Secrets to Unlocking Your Child’s Potential”. She is also the founder of (a website on parenting, education, child development) and (a website on Right Brain Education, cognitive development, and maximising potentials). In her spare time, she blogs on Forty, Fit & Fed, and Back to Basics.

2 thoughts on “The Discipline Armoury: Tip 17 – Daily Routines

  1. I believe routine is goood. especially for very young children like my and your 2nd child. they cant talk yet and they cant understand words yet. but the routine help them to know what will be coming next. of course, being agreeable to it or not is another issue 🙂
    is it Gavin’s bday? HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO GAVIN!


  2. Hahaha… getting a child’s agreement is never as easy as it ought to be…

    How odd that my ticker shows Gavin as 3. His birthday’s in January. Gotta see if I can correct that.


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