Before we got married, I told the hubby I wanted a Church ceremony. Part of that ceremony requires the attendance to a see a Marriage Family Counselor. Many people, like the hubby probably feel offended by the idea of getting a third party to step in and help a couple discuss relationship issues. As the hubby put it, “What have they got to say that I don’t already know?” Unfortunately, having an arrogant attitude like that is exactly the reason why a third party is necessary.
Being an outsider, Marriage Counselors can bring up subjects that might be difficult to raise between a couple. Since they have loads more experience, they can direct the couple through potential difficulties in the road that lies ahead. I, for one, was quite keen to attend counseling session even if the hubby thought it a complete waste of time. Regrettably, we never made it to one - regrettably, because I never pushed hard enough for us to attend one.
I would be lying if I said that the hubby and I never had any problems. Indeed, we often have our little tiffs and blow ups. It’s hard enough just between the two of us without having his parents or my parents getting into the picture. Since my parents are usually in Australia, it’s more his parents than mine. Although the potency of my parents probably make up for their infrequency. But I digress… It seems sometimes that what the hubby and I really need is to go on a Marriage Retreat. Indeed, at times, it is about all I can do to stay in this marriage and not walk out. I feel like throwing everything I ever listened to from Wayne Dyer out the window and tell the hubby to go shove it where the sun don’t shine.
We somehow always seem to make it through the rough patches but the problem is that we always seem to fight about the same things. We make up and brush everything under the carpet until the next tornado comes along and blasts that carpet away. It always seems that the people who need to attend Marriage Family Counseling are those who are on the brink of divorce if something major doesn’t change soon and fast, but perhaps it needs to happen sooner to prevent couples from getting one step away from signing on the dotted line?
The big question is when is it time to get professional help and what is just normal marriage squabble?
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