There is a common misconception that we become smarter as we grow older (that is, until we hit “old age” and brain degeneration kicks in). This misconception is based on the confusion between wisdom and learning ability. As we age, we become wiser through our experiences and the lessons we learn from them. The learning curve in life is pretty much the same as it is for any new subject that we pick up – it increases rapidly initially and slowly begins to plateau. In life, our greatest learning abilities occur in the first three years of life. Thereafter, it begins to slow down.
For a long time, many people thought babies were inanimate blobs that did nothing. They didn’t think there was much going on in inside a baby’s brain either. That was because babies were observers of life rather than participants. In Brain Rules for Baby, John Medina wrote about Andy Meltzoff, a psychologist from the University of Washington, who corrected this notion about babies when he performed a little test on a 42-minute-old baby. Meltzoff stuck his tonuge out at the baby and the baby responded in kind by sticking his own tongue out. Meltzoff repeated the action and the baby responded again. Meltzoff discovered that babies could imitate right from the start of their lives. Spurred by this finding, Meltzoff performed another experiment:
“Meltzoff constructed a wooden box, covered by an orange plastic panel, into which he inserted a light. If he touched the panel, the light turned on. Meltzoff put the box between him and a 1-year-old girl, then performed an unusual stunt. He leaned forward and touched his forehead to the top of the box, which immediately lit up its interior. The baby was not allowed to touch the box. Instead, she and her mother were asked to leave the room. A week later, the baby and mother came back to the lab, and Meltzoff set the box between him and the infant. This time he did nothing but watch. The baby didn’t hesitate. As if on cue, she immediately bent forward and touched the box with her forehead. The baby had remembered! She’d had only a single exposure to this event, but she had recalled it perfectly a week later. Babies can do this all over the world.”
Babies are learning rapidly from the moment they are born. They are merely unable to demonstrate this because their motor coordination has not developed sufficiently. Think about how quickly babies learn to speak without having “proper” lessons as we do. If you expose a baby to multiple languages, he can learn them all at the same time – how many adult individuals do you know of that is capable of that? At the same time that babies are learning to talk, they are also learning to walk, and they are also learning about the world around them. Babies can learn as easily as breathing.
Gavin was playing a game on the iPad with Gareth peering over his shoulder. My FIL kept asking Gavin to “teach” his brother how to play the game. And yet it wasn’t necessary because just by watching Gavin play, Gareth picked it up on his own. Back before he developed his fine motor skills, Gavin used to play a cooking game on the iPhone. For a long time, Gareth would select the app but he wouldn’t be able to do anything with it because he didn’t have the fine motor skills for it. Recently, Gareth selected the cooking game app. Despite the fact that he had not seen the game in action for a long time, he remembered what he had to do – he started adding the ingredients to the bowl and mixing them together.
As much as I keeping saying iPad in moderation, I have observed Gareth learning so much through his use of the iPad. It has even helped to improve Gareth’s concentration span. Where previously, he could hardly sit long enough to fit all the shapes into a shape sorter, since playing the matching shapes app on the iPad, I recently spied him paying more attention to his 3D shape sorter.
Babies are smart. Smarter than we imagined them to be and definitely smarter than we are. We often joke that it is all downhill after the age of 40. Well, in terms of learning ability, it is really all downhill after 6 years of age. If we waited until our children reach school-going age to start teaching them, we are missing out on this huge window of opportunity. Shichida talked about the law of diminishing ability, so what we would really be catching the the tail end of a diminishing ability.









HI, Shen Li,
Thanks for the great article. Once in a while we need to be reminded of the logic behind all the right brain training/fun
My family thinks it’s hilarious when i kept repeating the rabbit, the house , the strawberry and so on..haha
Also, i keep going back to Nurture Shock, what a good read. Again thanks to you
When I tell ppl, ‘Don’t praise my son’ They think I am cuckoo too..He is turning into a praise junkie already
Not sure if you have written in your blog about this before but how is your daily schedule like? I have a list of things that we cover daily but it does look scary. Thanks in advance
Hi Jessica – my pleasure. It’s a great reminder for me as well. I love Gareth at this age because he is discovering so many things and starting to show me what he has learned and it is so exciting to be a part of it.
Yes, I hate that the praise slips out so easily and I don’t like it when Gavin gives up so easily or complains that something is “too hard” rather than take on the challenge because it is hard. Recently I had to have a talk with him about it being okay to be wrong and that the important thing was learning from our mistakes.
I don’t really have a daily schedule but I do have a list of things that we do. I don’t make it compulsory to get through everything either. I take each day as it comes. If we’re busy, then we do less, if not, we do more. If the kids aren’t up for it, we take it easy, if they’re keen, we do more. I am in the process of writing what we do – just haven’t published it yet. It’s one of those posts I started working on and got side tracked. I’ll try to get it out soonish